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I had a very pleasant lunch with a nice U of C girl. We ended up talking a lot about queerness, and I found myself going on about choice v. biology. I really am beginning to have a big problem with the whole "We can't help it" argument, as argued by the members of ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-community.gif)
queerchoice. I don't believe that I chose my attractions, but I do believe that we choose our actions. I know I worked very hard to act in a way that I find consistent with my personal ethics, and that applies to my sexuality/sex life, as well. I know that I have worked to understand the basis of my attraction to various people and attributes, and that the triggers for my attraction have changed over time. I expect to continue with this self-exploration and development over time, and it's something that's quite important to me. I don't choose my feelings but I choose how I deal with them, and I think that's something to celebrate. I don't choose what makes me comfortable, but I choose whether or not to do what makes me comfortable, and I feel that should be recognized. I am not stumbling along at the mercy of my hormones, and I think that should be something to respect, not a reason to deny my civil rights. Granted, these are not original thoughts, but I thought I'd share.
queerchoice. I don't believe that I chose my attractions, but I do believe that we choose our actions. I know I worked very hard to act in a way that I find consistent with my personal ethics, and that applies to my sexuality/sex life, as well. I know that I have worked to understand the basis of my attraction to various people and attributes, and that the triggers for my attraction have changed over time. I expect to continue with this self-exploration and development over time, and it's something that's quite important to me. I don't choose my feelings but I choose how I deal with them, and I think that's something to celebrate. I don't choose what makes me comfortable, but I choose whether or not to do what makes me comfortable, and I feel that should be recognized. I am not stumbling along at the mercy of my hormones, and I think that should be something to respect, not a reason to deny my civil rights. Granted, these are not original thoughts, but I thought I'd share.