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Listening to the Eurythmics Greatest Hits. I really need to get cracking on working on my presentation. Final touches, making sure I'm not leaving anything vital out, looking busy so that my boss doesn't give me more to do.
I'm looking terribly spiffy today, which in straight people land always serves to remind me of how QUEER I am. Shiny black doc three hole shoes, black dress socks (duh), black chinos, my new gray with white diagonal stripes button down from Structure. I look hot, and I can think of quite few women I know who would tell me in no uncertain terms how good I look. Here, however, no one says anything. This is not because they are the type of people who ignore things like clothes, I think that it's just so foreign to so many people.![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
kathrot posts about her cute outfits, and I think of how much fun I would have going out to coffee with her looking all fabulous, how much I love having a cute femme (even if it's just that day's gender incarnation) with me-not even in a romantic sense. I love having feminine friends who flirt with me and let me be a gentleman. I miss that more than almost anything about Smith-outside of being in college. I love being allowed to treat the women around me the way they deserve. I hate feeling like I can't look at the girls on the bus, that any attempt at being a gentleman is shot down when the men around me call me "miss" and hold the door. Sure, I appreciate politeness, it's better than the occasional poisonous look I get when someone figures out what's up. Still, I feel so invisible and useless.
I'm looking terribly spiffy today, which in straight people land always serves to remind me of how QUEER I am. Shiny black doc three hole shoes, black dress socks (duh), black chinos, my new gray with white diagonal stripes button down from Structure. I look hot, and I can think of quite few women I know who would tell me in no uncertain terms how good I look. Here, however, no one says anything. This is not because they are the type of people who ignore things like clothes, I think that it's just so foreign to so many people.
kathrot posts about her cute outfits, and I think of how much fun I would have going out to coffee with her looking all fabulous, how much I love having a cute femme (even if it's just that day's gender incarnation) with me-not even in a romantic sense. I love having feminine friends who flirt with me and let me be a gentleman. I miss that more than almost anything about Smith-outside of being in college. I love being allowed to treat the women around me the way they deserve. I hate feeling like I can't look at the girls on the bus, that any attempt at being a gentleman is shot down when the men around me call me "miss" and hold the door. Sure, I appreciate politeness, it's better than the occasional poisonous look I get when someone figures out what's up. Still, I feel so invisible and useless.
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I tried to hold the door for him on the way into the Hay. It was weird, I was in "Downtown Northampton, must act my height" mode.
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One advantage of checking out girls on the bus: they probably won't notice as they won't be expecting it.
And the thing about being invisible in a corporate place, for me, is that when I do see a young lady who is looking me over, I appreciate it all the more, because it is so rare. Yesterday I got clocked by another platinum blonde, but this one was carefully dressed in very tasteful skirt and boots, complete with look of perpetual disdain (which for some reason always appeals to me.) She looked at me and her eyes just twinkled so I found a very TBH-like wolfish grin across my face as I checked her out.
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Try this trick
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Did I mention how much I love having you on my arm?
And other things....
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It must be addressed.
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They all want a boi toy.
I can see power in lechery, Darcy and I were making eyes at pedestrians yesterday (watch the road) and people got nervous.
But there's a lot to be said for femme power. $$ says the blonde knows she's got it.
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MINE!
I love you.
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woo hoo...nice outfit!
it seems like people carry themselves differently -- more confidently -- when they're feeling good. and that is SO attractive.
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Hells yeah. My loving getting attention from pretty girls is all about the femme power. Looks from baby butches make me feel like a stud, but pretty girls make me all giggly and blushy.
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"Children masturbate because of their yen for scientific exploration. They live in a tactile world. Genitals are the proof that they have of their gender, and their play is proof of its permenance. Like a boy covering his penis with a bowl, or a girl holding a stick in front of her pants. What they have underneath doesn't change."
I feel really bad for the parents of intersexed children. There must be so little for them out there and as much as we all love to live in our little bubble of "Hey! Gender! Whee!" the rest of the world just doesn't bounce that way.
I would like to get femmed out, pack, then get fitted for trousers.
Blow some minds.
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And you're so good at it, too
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having been on the "tasteful skirt and boots" end of that interaction, i can tell ya it's ridiculously fun, flattering, and all around pleasant.
you know you made her day.
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*shakes ass*
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Break me offa pieca that!