Queer as Folk

So girlfriend and I developed an attachment to Queer as Folk last week. We rented the first tape intending to mock, and now I have the whole first season waiting for me in my room. It's so bad. The characters are stereotypes, the dialog depends on one liners, emotional outbursts, and people acting directly contrary to the way you *know* they would in real life. For instance: a lesbian couple who gets a birth father that they disagree on. How foolish can you be? Another guy chooses a friend to make the life support decision without asking him. Is that even legal? My favorite moments:

The lesbian couple named Franny and Zoe who have a child named Holden.

One of Justin's classmates is named Bueller.

The gay man who goes straight after promising God he would if he tested negative. He gives up men, even after his friends hire a porn star to come pay him a visit, he stops seeing them, goes from diva to drab, but then one short speech by his friend on God creating him in His image is enough to get him clubbing again.

If clubbing was all there was to gay life, I'd want to be straight, too.

The Lord Said Go to the Devil

Has anyone here taken German?

If so, did you learn the "Kaffee" song?

K-A-F-F-E-E
Trink nicht so viel Kaffee
Nicht fuer Kinder ist der Turken Trank
Mach dich saur mach dich blass und krank

I get t stuck in my head nearly every time I make coffee.

What I Hate Pt. 1

When you ask someone a question and they reply with something completely obvious and unhelpful.

Example: "Is this the door to the bathroom?"
"Well, it has hinges and a knob, I think it is a door. Yes."

The Bitch is Back

What is battering?
Battering is a pattern of behavior where one person tries to control the thoughts, beliefs or actions of a partner, friend or any other person close to them. It can include physical, emotional, sexual and/or economic abuse. While some folks who are battered fight back, battering is never mutual. Battering happens in lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex, and straight communities and crosses all social, ethnic, racial, and economic lines. An individual's size, strength, politics, gender presentation, or personality does not determine whether s/he can be battered or a batterer.

No one has the right to batter and no one deserves to be battered.

From The Network/La Red: "Have You Been Told"

But I've never hit you!
Battering is not about physical violence, it's about control. Hitting is often unnecessary to maintain control in a relationship. Verbal, emotional and economic abuse can be powerful and devastating weapons.

You've hit me too, so if I'm abusive, so are you.
Battering is never mutual. Although both partners may use violence, batterers do so to control their partners; survivors use violence in self-defense or to try to stop the abuse.

You don't understand - I'm just being butch.
Blaming abusive behavior on being butch is both insulting to butches and plain denial. While some butches batter, so do some femmes. You and/or your batterer may identify as butch, femme or neither. Battering can happen in all kinds of relationships, regardless of sexual or gender identity.

I thought you liked rough sex.
No one wants or likes to be raped or battered. Although some batterers may say their abusive behavior is really just part of an s/m scene, s/m requires the consent of all involved, and a scene can be stopped by any participant at any time. If your partner is disrespectful of your limits, ignores your safe word, or violates your boundaries, it's not s/m - it's battering.

Women are safe, we don't batter each other.
Abuse occurs in relationships between women as often as in straight relationships, and women have been seriously injured and killed by their female partners.


From "You May Be Battered If"

Has you walking on eggshells and you change your behavior to deal with their moods.

Ridicules or humiliates you.

Seems like two different people.

Tries to control where you go and what you do. You don't see family or friends to avoid their jealousy or anger.

Wants you to need them for money or expects you to support them.

Accuses you of having affairs or cheating on them.

Accuses you of lying.

Blames you for their problems.

Gives you the silent treatment.

Leaves you unsure where an s/m scene begins or ends or disrespects your safe words, rules or boundaries.

Threatens you, screams at you, throws things, breaks or steals your things.

Blames their behavior on alcohol, drugs or a history of abuse.

Uses your race, age, sexual identity or orientation, gender identity or presentation, ability, immigration status, class, body size or appearance, religion, HIV status, etc. against you.

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[Poll #24650]

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Hah!

So far I have read both of the books recommended to me.

Unyk-I'm not scared, but I prefer to watch movies with people in general. I'm odd.

Now I feel codependent.

(no subject)

The kitty loaf shall
invade Livejournal!
Long Live Kitty Loaf!

by antipeople

Dreams

Last night I dreamt lots of odd things. Sex with old men, a bob with ::shudder:: bangs instead of my usual little boy cut, and many other rather strange things. But all somewhat familiar. Then I had a dream I never had before.

I dreamt that the Sears Tower up and fell down.

A little behind the times, aren't I?

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RWCC on Nina Simone singing "I Loves You Porgie": I wonder about Nina Simone. I think this other guy is gonna show up and get his hot hands on her, and she's gonna kick his ass. She's just not very good at vulnerable.